Embrace Your Inner Slut

Last weekend I listened to the ‘Becoming Your Inner Siren’ teleseminar. It was wonderful to have 24 individuals who embrace that inner passionate being and recognized just how much we as women need that to be whole.

I grew up in an ultra-conservative religion. One that denied sexuality, said it was intrinsically evil and that you needed to shun it except for what it was intended for – bringing babies into this world. Now I was a very sexual being, even from my childhood and the amount of guilt laid at my feet from that religion for my desires/needs forced me to lock it up.

Of course I could only lock it up so long before it forced its way out – it needed an outlet, a release. One that when I gave in just increased my feelings of shame and guilt.

When I left that hideous religion behind I finally began to accept that sexual side of myself. Strangely enough (at least to me at the time) was the fact that the more I embraced that passionate woman inside, the higher my self-esteem rose. The less guilt I felt for loving and enjoying sex allowed me to be more open about other, non-sexual things.

A few years ago I recognized just how much I had changed due to accepting that part of me and how some residuals from my past still kept me down at times. I felt a need to help others accept that beautiful, passionate woman within.

So I was thrilled to listen to that seminar and hear so many others who are working to do that.

Where am I going with this?

  • If you feel the need to hide your passion
  • if you feel any guilt and/or shame about your sexuality
  • if you are embarrassed to tell your partner what you need…

There are others out there to help you. We all have different parts of us. It has been said for many years that every female has three parts:

  • The woman
  • The lady
  • The child

I agree. But I must add another. The slut. It is a hard word to hear at times – The term slut has been used for so long as a derogatory term. But should it be? Maybe it is time to change that definition. What is my definition? A slut is someone who is aware of their own sexual needs and is willing to express them without shame or guilt.

For years I have denied that term. I did not want people to think of me as ‘a slut’, but you know what? I am. No, not in the derogatory sense, but in the fact that I love that sexual side of me, I don’t want to hide that part anymore. In many ways I have opened up about that side. My mother knows I am a sub. So do most of my friends.

For other subs, you will recognize what I am about to say. If someone looked at me and called me “slut”, I would probably get pissed and tell them off; humiliation, especially verbal humiliation, is not my thing. BUT – if my One looked at me and said the words “My slut”, I would melt at the same time every fire within me would ignite.

Being a slut isn’t about following everyone else, it is about following your own inner needs.

Look inside at that passionate siren within you. Throw your arms around her and ask, “What do you need?”

She will tell you as of any part of us, that inner slut is rarely afraid to speak her mind. But the thing is – you need to be prepared to listen.

All women need to embrace that part of ourselves. That passionate being inside of us has so much power, desire and need to express and it is NOT all about sex. But by denying her, we are denying living a full life.

Embrace that inner slut. Find someone to help you learn to let her out in a safe environment. Many who have not allowed that part of them loose can be afraid that if they did, they would become something they do not want to be. I personally feel that fear is based from something we heard as children, maybe even something that was told to us to keep us safe at the time. And yes, I have dealt with that particular fear and with each new desire, sometimes I still battle it..

But we are no longer children. We are adults and have every right to express ourselves as we see fit. Obviously society-wise, some things are not acceptable, but within the walls of our own homes?

Be who you are. Do not let anyone else tell you that your needs are wrong. They are right for you. Find a way to express them. Find others who share the same desires and needs. Form support groups if needed.

Hell, have a question? Ask me! If I don’t know the answer I will be honest about it, but I can promise you this – I’m non-judgmental. I’ve heard just about everything.

Want a guide? Here are some names from the teleseminar this last weekend – who knows, maybe one of them might be the person you need: (As I have not used any of their programs, I do not endorse them. This is for information purposes only.)

Marguerite Rigoglioso – Your Sacred Womb

Katie Hendricks – Being Completely at Home in Your Own Body

Ray Doktor – The Language of Feminine Sensuality

Anaiya Sophia – The Seven Gates to Sexual Freedom

Julie Ward – Permission to Be Truly Feminine

Michelle Casto – Singing Your Unique Siren Song

Emma Ziff – Make it NOT Fake It!

Bonnie Gayle – Body Image Issues

Daphne Cohn – The Pleasure of the Feminine Force

Kimberly McGeorge – Clearing Your Energy Body

Tanja Diamond – Tantra and Orgasms

Nicole Moore – How to Stop Pushing Love Away

Tina Konkin – The Gift of Forgiveness

Corynna Clark – Limitless Pleasure

Jumana King-Harris – Woman as Temple

Lynnet McKenzie – Opening to Ecstasy

Billy Sunday Mars – The Health Benefits of Sex and Sensuality

Jan Robinson – Being Irresistibly Magnetic to High Quality Men
(I spoke with her on the phone. An incredible non-judgmental person)

Allana Pratt – Being Intimate with Yourself

Elayne Doughty – Cultivating Feminine Presence

Pamela Madsen – Being Shameless

Ben and Jen Rode – Explosive Sexual Healing

Susan Gala – Loving Your Pelvic Core

Crystal Andrus – Authentic Feminine Power

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