Limit’s List

Everyone who reads a BDSM tale hears about Limit’s Lists, but if you aren’t going to parties or getting to know a dom/me or a sub, it can seem a bit esoteric. I actually have two limit’s lists. The one is very negotiation detailed, almost to the point of ad nauseum, but at the same time, sometimes that is smart. In the moment, it can be difficult to remember everything you will or won’t ‘do.’

Today I thought I would share my basic limit’s list so that you can see what one might look like. Don’t expect everyone’s list to look like this, because they won’t. And this is as basic as it gets, imo. My negotiation one goes into a lot more detail. And no, this is the list without my information. That is private. The wording in this list is sub-oriented because it is mine, but remember, dominants have limits too.

Without further ado… I give you – The Limit’s List

For each item mark yes or no to indicate prior experience

After indicating experience mark with a number 0-4 to indicate interest in that idea

0 indicates – a hard limit, something the sub has an aversion to.

1 indicates – no desire to do this, but does not have a particular aversion to it. Something the sub would consider doing however to please a dominant.

2 indicates – that he or she would probably like the activity, could be something that is an enjoyable fantasy, but that the sub is not sure will translate into an enjoyable real life activity. Also could be something the sub wants but is embarrassed to admit.

3 indicates – that this activity is something that he or she would like to do, perhaps a reoccurring fantasy and often something that the sub has done in the past and enjoyed.

4 indicates – the sub finds this activity a wild turn on and has a particular fetish or preoccupation with it.

Activity

Abrasion
Age play (not pedophilia)
Anal plugs
Anal sex
Animal roles
Arm and leg sleeves
Ball gag
Ball stretching
Beating hard
Beating soft
Being blindfolded
Being gagged
Being serviced (sex)
Bestiality
Biting
Bondage heavy
Bondage light
Boot worship
Branding
Breast bondage
Breast fucking
Breast whipping
Brown showers
Cages
Caning – English –
Caning sensation
Catheterization
Chains
Chastity device
Chauffeuring
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Chosen clothing for
Chosen food for
Clothespins
Cock worship
Collars
Corsets
Cuffs
Cutting
Dilation
Double penetration
Ear plugs
Electricity
Enemas
Examinations
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy gang rape
Fantasy rape
Figging
Fisting
Flogging
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced dressing
Forced feminization
Forced homosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity
Forced servitude
Genital sex
Given away
Golden showers
Group play
Hair pulling
Hairbrushes
Harnessing
High heel worship
Homage with tongue
Hoods
Hot wax – dripping
Hot wax hair removal
Housework
Human puppy dog
Humiliation in private
Humiliation in public
Ice cubes
Infantilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Interrogations
Intricate rope bondage
Kidnapping
Kneeling
Leather restraints
Lecturing
Mantra and meditation
Massage – getting
Massage giving
Medical scenes
Model for erotic pictures
Mouth bits
Name change
Nipple clamps
Nipple weights
Oral getting
Oral giving to opposite sex
Oral giving to same sex
Orgasm control
Orgasm denial
Outdoor scenes
Over the knee spanking
Paddling
Personality modification
Phone sex
Piercing (perm)
Piercing (temp)
Prison scenes
Prostitution, real or fantasy
Pussy whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Rimming
Rituals
Religious scenes
Rope bondage
Rubber/latex clothing
Saran wrapping
Scarification
Scratching getting
Scratching – giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving as a maid
Serving as a pony
Serving as furniture/art
Serving as toilet
Serving orally
Serving other Doms (supervised only)
Serving other Doms (unsupervised only)
Sexual deprivation
Shaving
Sleep deprivation
Slutty clothing
Spandex clothing
Spanking
Speculums
Speech restrictions
Spreader bars
Stable (serving with other submissives )
Standing in corner
Stocks
Strait jackets
Strap on dildos
Suspension
Swapping
Swinging
Tape gags
Tattooing
Teasing
Thumb cuffs
Tickling
Triple penetration
Uniforms
Verbal humiliation
Videotaped Scenes
Voyeurism
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling

Any allergies that the Dom(me) should be aware? (if yes, describe:)

Any medical conditions? (if yes, give details:)

Any specific subject not described in this list that the Dom(me) should be concern with? (if yes describe:)

Any fears real or imagined that would cause you extreme anxiety (if yes describe)

…and now that I have re-read this to make sure it still looks good with all my info removed, I’m hot. *sigh*

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